When a child is struggling, it is easy to focus on what we want to stop. The hitting. The running off. The arguing. The impulsivity. The phone calls from school.
I start somewhere else.
What is this behavior telling us? What does this child still need to learn? And which strengths are already there to build from?
Because your child is so much more than the moments when things are hardest for them.
As a mother of children with ADHD and impulsivity, I remember dreading birthday parties and family gatherings — the looks, the comments, and the feeling that everyone was waiting for my child to do something wrong.
Over time I realized that I had started seeing my own children through their difficulties.
That is where my perspective changed. I stopped asking only, “How do I make this behavior stop?” and started asking, “Who is the child behind the behavior, and what do they need to learn right now?”
A bit more about me →The goal is not only to stop a behavior. The goal is to teach a child what to do instead.
There may be a leader in there who needs to learn how to use that strength.
We will teach safety and boundaries — and also find real chances to move, to help, and to lead.
We stop the hitting. Then we teach him to notice the feeling, ask for help, and use words instead of hands.
Sometimes a child struggles socially or behaviorally, other children begin to be wary of him, and the simplest solution becomes keeping him at a distance so he will not “cause trouble.”
Safety always comes first.
But when it can be done safely, I would rather build a bridge than a wall. Help him find his way into the game. Create small, successful interactions. Give him the chance to help, to lead, and to show the other children a different side of himself.
I believe we can keep everyone safe — without taking away a child's chance to belong.
Meltdowns, boundaries, transitions, siblings, social situations, difficulties at school — or simply the feeling that you have already tried everything.
We look together at what is happening and build tools that fit your child and your family.
Parent guidance →Behavioral services provided as part of a treatment plan and under the required professional supervision, with goals matched to the child's needs.
RBT services →Private in-home guidance across South Florida is also available — see how in-home sessions work.
Every time I called Tali because I felt stuck, she knew how to give me practical advice I could actually use day to day — and every single time, she got it exactly right.
What I appreciate most about Tali is her ability to truly see each child as an individual. She helped me make decisions and feel far more confident as a mother.
What impressed me most was Tali's ability to stay calm, positive, and encouraging even in the hardest moments. It was clear that she truly sees my son and wants him to succeed.
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Read the full answer →Sometimes children do not yet have the words to explain what is happening inside them.
I wrote my children's books to open conversations about fear, jealousy, mistakes, embarrassment, confidence, and big feelings — in a way children can understand.
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If something about your child's behavior is worrying you, if the school is calling, if your child is struggling socially, or if you simply feel that you no longer know how to respond — let's talk.
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